If you are asking yourself what you want in life, you’re actually asking yourself the wrong question if you’re looking to increase the quality of your life.
One of the coaches on my team recently summarised a book she has been reading, and I just loved it. This is exactly the kind of attitude that I believe forms the foundation for high achievers.
Take a look at the book if you want more from it – it’s called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. But I really do believe the essence of the book is in this video.
Keep climbing, because that climb is what it’s all about.
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I recently got a question from one of my team members and the person asked me saying, “Shweta, what’s the top requirement or what’s the top characteristic of a high achiever? What do you think?” And look I will say this, but it’s not because we are in that business, but because it’s based on wide research, which I have read and paid attention to.
The Top Attribute of High Achievers
There are five key attributes, key characteristics of high achievers, but I’ll just talk about the first one. Literally, the top attribute is coachability. How coachable that person is, how open-minded they are.
It doesn’t matter how much this high achiever has already achieved, or how many awards they have won or an accomplishments list that they have. It’s despite all of this are they still coachable? Are they still willing to learn? Are they curious? Are they willing to absorb the information?
That is something very fundamental to our business and our approach with businesses being a lifelong student.
And, in fact, every team member of my business right now is reading a book. My clients are all reading books and we are really big on that – it’s really important.
In our Monday meeting one of the team members talked about a book that she was reading and I asked her saying could you give me the essence of that book? Like what exactly was it that you really liked? What does this book talk about?
She shared that with the team in our meeting and I loved it. I just loved it. Because it resonated so much with what I absolutely believe in and it couldn’t have been said better.
So I thought I will just read that out to you and see if it resonates with you as well and what do you take out from this.
The Essence of Not Giving a F***
So it says:
“Don’t ask yourself what you want out of life it’s easy to want success and fame and happiness and lots of money. Even great sex. Everybody wants those things.
A much more interesting question to ask yourself is what kind of pain do I want? What you are willing to struggle for is a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of a failure is a failure. Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Who you are is defined by what you are willing to struggle for.
You can’t merely be in love with the result. Everybody loves the result you have to love the process. The climb to the top is a never-ending upward spiral with new problems always surfacing and new processes that you must fall in love with. You are never allowed to stop climbing because the entire point is to love the climb. If you ever stop loving the climb the results will never come.
And if you think at any point you’re allowed to stop climbing, I’m afraid you’re missing the point because the joy is in the climb itself.”
The book is called The Subtle Art of Not Giving an F by Mark Manson. Have a look at this book but I think the essence is right here.
I would love to know what you take away from what I’ve just read out to you. I really hope you find this meaningful and reflect on it and, more importantly, you allow yourself to be okay with, to be happy with, and to love the pain – the process of becoming better of doing better and achieving even better results in your life and in your business.